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Brochure Surrey

I’m a registered psychologist with a PhD in Clinical Psychology. I have over 20 years clinical experience helping people feel better, move forward in their lives, and create more satisfying relationships. Are you ready to make a change that counts? Take the first step to get started. Brochure Surrey

Getting the Most from Therapy

How do sessions start? What should I talk about? I take your lead in starting the session. It can feel uncomfortable initially to have the focus on you without a lot of direction or structure, but in this way I’m more confident that I’m not imposing a focus for the session. If I feel we’re avoiding something important I’ll talk to you about that. Generally, we aim to talk about what brought you to therapy and how the therapy is progressing (are you seeing progress, is there something in the therapy that needs adjustment to make it more effective). Article - Getting the most from therapy
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Feeling Excluded Feels Like a Broken Arm

The pain of social rejection. In her recent article Kirsten Weir summarizes recent studies where researchers have found that when social rejection is monitored by brain scans, it is experienced by the brain like physical pain. Others have found that feeling excluded hurts even when the researchers have tried to soften the impact by having research participants snubbed by those they don’t respect, or by receiving money for being rejected. Kirsten Weir reminds us that we’re social beings and that this has been important for our survival throughout our evolutionary history. Article - Excluded

Tips to Reduce Anxiety

Bourne (2005) describes anxiety this way: "Anxiety affects your whole being. It is a physiological, behavioral, and psychological reaction all at once. On a physiological level, anxiety may include bodily reactions such as rapid heartbeat, muscle tension, queasiness, dry mouth, or sweating. On a behavioral level, it can sabotage your ability to act, express yourself, or deal with everyday situations. Psychologically, anxiety is a subjective state of apprehension and uneasiness. In its most extreme form, it can cause you to feel detached from yourself and even fearful of dying or going crazy." Article - Tips to reduce anxiety
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Changing Relationship Patterns

Often, when people seek therapy, they want help with anxiety, depression, stress, and/or anger. However, these feelings have typically originated in interpersonal situations and/or are maintained in relationships. Old and familiar approaches to try to solve the problem (e.g., to protect oneself from rejection or abandonment) now seem to result in making things worse. The solution has become the problem. How does this come about? What can be done to fix this? Article - Changing Relationship Patterns