Couples Therapy, Langley, BC

Is Couples Therapy Right For You And Your Partner?...

Are you finding that you and your partner are getting stuck in the same patterns? Are your arguments repetitive and don’t seem to resolve issues? Are you and your partner avoiding difficult topics?

Do you still care about your partner but wonder where the joy and intimacy went?

Relationship issues I work with are:
  • communication difficulties
  • recovering from affairs and infidelity
  • strengthening emotional bonds and intimacy
I’m expanding my practice to include couples therapy. I use the Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) approach which I find similar to the approaches I use in individual and group therapy, that is, a focus on relationships. EFT is based on attachment theory or our need to feel cared for throughout the lifespan. It is captured in the question: Are you there for me? When couples are thinking of starting therapy, it can feel like two porcupines trying to mate. There is an underlying caring for each other and wanting the relationship to work, but the barbs get in the way. One person will get emotionally activated and respond in a way that is self-protective but ends up hurting their partner. The partner then gets emotionally activated and also responds in a way that is self-protective but hurtful to the other. In EFT couples first learn how to disengage from this negative cycle. The second step is to learn how to reconnect with each other and to develop a strong bond. In the third stage, couples address past hurts and consolidate their progress. I have completed a 28-hour Externship in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and I consult with a registered psychologist who is a Certified EFT Supervisor. I will have you sign a consent form allowing me to discuss your case with my consultant.

Couple Therapy Costs

My fees are $175 per 50-minute session. You may have access to extended health care benefits for registered psychologists, or be able to claim these expenses on your income tax.

Getting Started

  1. Take a look at the information on my website to get a feel for how I work.
  2. Contact me via phone or email to set up a time to talk for about 15-20 minutes to answer your questions about couples therapy and to see if I may be a good fit for you. If the answer is yes, we’ll proceed; if not, I’ll recommend other resources.
  3. We’ll set an initial appointment.
  4. For each partner, please complete the following forms (in the "Forms" section):
    • Download and complete the Background Questionnaire (one for each partner).
    • Review the Informed Consent form (to be signed jointly at the initial appointment).
    • Bring the completed forms to the initial appointment.